At first Doris saw only problems - now, married and a mother, she says her heart is overflowing with happiness.
In the Beginning, Doris Saw Only Problems …
Doris (29) has always wanted to have a family. However, her hopes were dashed: According to a medical examination, she was unlikely to get pregnant. Nevertheless, one day she realizes that she is pregnant! But she can’t be happy about it. Her concern: Is her boyfriend, the father of the child, capable of supporting a family? She is gripped by the fear of ultimately having to go through life as a single mother. Doris swings back and forth, but to no avail. She senses that she now urgently needs advice. When she comes across the SAMC website, she decides to contact its helpline.
Between desire and reality
Doris soon has a serious conversation with a counselor. She is not sure whether she could build a stable family with her boyfriend, the father of the child. Family is very important to him, as it is to her. Also their relationship is good and they really love each other. However, she had imagined a husband with a family differently. Her boyfriend had dropped out of university, was keeping his head above water with odd jobs and was penniless. She was afraid of having to go to work and look after the child on her own. She was already less able to cope due to an illness. She feels torn between her old desire for a family, and reality, and is thinking about having an abortion.
The counselor addresses the many problems Doris raises by drawing attention to possible solutions. An interrupted course of study could be continued. Her boyfriend could look for a permanent job. When she explains how the SAMC helps pregnant women in difficult situations financially and materially, Doris is amazed. She had never imagined such support was possible. She is glad to have had the conversation. It has given her some new ideas for assessing her situation. She makes an appointment with the counselor for another meeting.
A week later, as agreed, the two talk to each other again. Doris is still very insecure. The counselor encourages her not to perceive her problems as unavoidable fate, but to see them as solvable challenges. Of course, many pregnant women cannot always overcome their difficulties alone, but they can with support, and that is what the SAMC is there for.
The big turnaround
Doris then thinks about what she has discussed with the counselor and about the offer of help from the SAMC. She also discusses the situation in detail with her boyfriend. In the end, the prospects for a life with the child, as shown them by the counselor, seem realistic to both of them, especially with the help of the SAMC. Doris tells the counselor that she wants to keep her child! And then the counselor receives another piece of important news: Doris and her boyfriend are getting married!
The newlyweds come to the SAMC in good time, where they can pick up the equipment they need for the baby, which they are very grateful for. And if the good news wasn’t enough, the counselor learns that Doris’ husband has found a permanent, regular job very close to where they live!
On the road to happiness
Doris gives birth to a lovely daughter. The young mother tells the counselor that her heart is overflowing with happiness. She is very glad that she had decided to keep her child. With the birth of her daughter, her fears had finally disappeared. Her relationship is developing well. Her husband is proving to be a good dad. He supports her with the baby and is thus able to compensate for her reduced resilience. In addition, her mother and sister relieve her of household chores. As a result, her husband is already thinking about going back to university.
Doris also lets the counselor know that she had turned to various counseling centers at the beginning of her pregnancy. The SAMC, however, was the only one that had given her practical support and with whom she was still in contact. The SAMC is supporting the couple as they start their family life. However, it soon becomes clear that the family will be able to fend for themselves in the foreseeable future.